Fur Babies After A Real Baby

Hi Friends! I should preface this by saying our dogs are our first born children. To us they are basically humans and nothing will change that. My oldest, Sugar, was the flower girl in our wedding. Our other pup Tommy had to have double ACL surgery a month after our daughter was born (not cheap, but I would have gone into debt up to my eyeballs to make sure he could walk). The dogs have gone on road trips and local vacations with us. They sleep in our bed, on the same pillows as us. We have always been pretty obsessed with them and for a long time thought they might be our only children. They honestly live the life and in turn make our lives better in so many ways.

I was told over and over again when pregnant that I wouldn’t love my dogs, or at least not as much, once the baby arrived. That we will want to get rid of them (can you imagine???). That taking care of them is just one more thing to do and we will resent them for it. Well, a very small piece of that was true. The rest I think is for folks who maybe don’t look at dogs as family? It is definitely just one more thing to do when you are sleep deprived, working, trying to maintain a household and have a baby who needs you for everything. But, pets are family and family is for life. Things are definitely a little different, but the truth is we still love our fur kids a whole lot. Unfortunately for them, they now have to compete with a baby that needs 100% of our attention when she is awake and will win out over them most of the time.

To compensate, they bark to get the attention that they now have to share. They also think they are protecting “their” baby so are on high alert which has caused more barking and some lunging and nipping at house guests. Some days it is bad enough to make my blood boil and I find myself yelling at them like a crazy person. Then I feel like a huge jerk and try to remember that they are adjusting to a new life and that they were here before Paige was. The thing I was most worried about when pregnant was not how painful labor would be, but how they would adjust to their new sibling. In the scheme of things they’ve done ok, but I trust them around my daughter 100% and I can tell they care about her. I can’t ask for much more than that.

We ended up hiring a trainer to help combat the issues we’re having. We were given some tools to help, but like anything else it takes dedication and sometimes I slack on being consistent. Like all things, it is a work in progress.

Our pups still get a walk most days, they still sleep in bed with us, they still sometimes go on vacation with us, they have full access to the baby and house and they are in the same room as us most of the time. Until they cross the rainbow bridge we will give them the best life possible and we hope they know how much we love them.

Anyone else have experiences with their pups after their babies arrived? I would love to hear about it in the comments below.

XOXO,

H

5 thoughts on “Fur Babies After A Real Baby

  1. Hi Heather! I do enjoy your blog posts. It was a loooong time ago but I remember being worried I wasn’t going to love my kid as much as I loved my dog! There were days Sophie (the dog) and I would look at each other and I’d think about how nice and quiet our days were before 👶🏻. Never loved Sophie less but just different. ❤️

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  2. Wow, I honestly never would have thought about that. I have a dog but babies aren’t in my near future so I just haven’t thought of it. I can imagine that’s been a hard adjustment for them and you are only human, so it’s understandable where frustration sets in. I don’t think anyone would judge you for that. Just keep loving all 3 babies!! 💕

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  3. This transition was so hard for us, too. I remember being so annoyed at Banidt with his barking, scratching to get in bed with us, etc. I feel like I neglected him for the first few months Olive was born, but we are back into a good groove and it’s so cute to see them play together now.
    PS- My poor pup has gained almost three pounds since Olive has been eating solids. Beware of the scraps hitting the floor and/or Paige thinking it’s fun to dump food out for the pups.

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